Kitten's Views on Relationships

{Kitten struggles to sit up on velvet cushion. It was a long night and Kitten did not get much sleep. Besides being in pain from cramping, Kitten spent the better part of an hour redoing her post.}
This was not the post I had intended to right but after a talk with my Lil Sis I decided to change it. Relationships are hard work and to keep them going you need two things: trust and honest communication. It doesn't matter whether you have relationship with some one you live or someone over the internet. It also applies to both monogomous and open relationships. Without these two things the relationship will probably fall apart.
Trust, you would think, would be a given, but most people have problems with this in many different ways. Some have trouble trusting there partners with other people or visa-verse, their partners have trouble trusting them with other people. These people become jealous and start distrusting there partner {although, sometimes for good reason}. Others, like me, have problems trusting them with feelings, emotions, ect, and therefore do not open up. We "run" whenver we think that we might get hurt emotionally. We need to work through these problems though becaue living in a constant of doubting or "running" takes a toll on the relationship. No one wants to be bogged down in fear, doubt, and worrying.
I was in exclusive, near distance relationship for a year and one long distance-ish, open relationship for a year and half. I made the same trust issue trwice. I would not open up with my true feelings. I am not a jealous person by nature and I had no problems being in an open relationship where we both saw other people. I do however have trust hang ups when it comes to telling people my real feelings. I'm afraid that if I love someone { this only pretains to people I date not friends and family} that they'll hurt me. I think that had I been more with my feelings and truted them, my relationships might have ended better.
So how do you have trust? You have to have honest communication. This goes for whether you're in a monogomous or open relationship and expecially goes if you're in a long distance relationship. Communicating honestly means that you talk about everything that goes, keep you're partner informed, and tell them about how you're feeling. This does not just include how you feel about one another but how you feel about anything that affects you because if you feel strongly enought to let it bother then it will probably affect your relationhip sooner or later.
Honest communication is probably most crucial though when it comes to trust. If you have decided to be in a monogomous relationship but are going out with some one of the opposite sex, that you think your partner might be bother with, tell them. While you shoulde be able to see anyone you want, you need to let your partner know so that there is no hard feelings or suspcions. This also goes if you're feeling insecure. Tell the person that you're feeling insecure and ask what are the "rules, guidelines,whatever you wish to call it" of the relationship. If you're in an open relationship, the parties also need to tell one another what is going on. Don't hide the fact that you're seeing some one. Don't hide the fact that you're attracted to someone else. It is an open relationship so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. But if you don't tell you're partner you are seeing some one else and the they find out, then trust issues will start to be a problem. All in all both parties need to be communicate honestly or other wise one or both are going to be upset and the relationship most likely will not make it.
Probably the third important thing that you need in a relationship is forgiveness. Everyone is human and will make mistakes. Some will be little like forgetting to call one evening others will be big like cheating. Forgiveness sometimes easy to do and sometimes hard but it needs to be done. You shouldn't hold grudges. If you can't forgive them get out of the relationship. It won't do any one any good to go over and over an indescrition or mistake.